What Women REALLY Want...For Real This Time

Women are the most simple yet complex creatures on earth.   No two are alike yet every one has something in common.  We all have desires.  We all have dreams.  We all have things that we fantasize about when it comes to a potential mate.  Desired physical characteristics and personality traits vary across the board and are as diverse as ones taste in pizza toppings.  YET, there are certain things that ALL women can agree on.  We will get to that in a minute.

"Women don't know what they want!"  

Yes the hell we do!    Allow me to clear something up. There is a difference between a woman not being able to vocalize what she wants from you and not KNOWING what she wants. Let's not confuse the who. There are a number of reasons why she may not be able to express her desires.  Perhaps you aren't what she wants and she doesn't know how to tell you.  Hell, maybe she changed her mind about whatever it is that she was so SURE that she wanted.  It happens.  People change their minds and tastes evolve as years go by.  I doubt that most people want the same things in a partner now as they did a decade ago.  That doesn't mean we don't know what we want.  We KNOW.

I've spend a lot of time talking to and listening to women throughout my three decades of life.  I can't possibly begin to count the hours spent in various girl talk sessions over the years. The idea of trying to tally it up makes me brain hurt. These conversations have awarded me a wealth of insight into the minds of women. I have taken mental notes and reviewed as many of those interactions as I prepared to write this post. Of course there are variables.  Don't be anal folks.  I couldn't begin to cover it all.  Anyhoo, after much deliberation I narrowed it down to 5 things that women REALLY want from the men in their lives.

  

TOP 5 THINGS WOMEN REALLY WANT....FROM MEN

1.  TO BE CLAIMED-  If she is your woman and she is important to you.  Claim her.  Don't be mysterious about it.  Don't keep her a secret. Being private is one thing.  Being secretive is a totally different monster. If you leave that grey area in place you better be ready for her to act accordingly.  When you allow the grey to fester it may make her feel like you are: 1. ashamed of the relationship 2. holding off in case someone else comes along 3. not truly committed to growing and developing whatever it is that the two of you have going on. If you want to keep that woman in your life, man up and claim her.  Make that shit known or leave her alone. Seriously.


2.  LOYALTY-  Simple.  Don't fucking CHEAT. Don't cheat emotionally.  Don't cheat physically.  Don't entertain and encourage other women in ways that you KNOW are inappropriate and that would hurt your lady.  Defend her when someone talks badly about her. Show her the same level of loyalty and faithfulness that you expect her to show you in and OUT of your presence.   


3.  TO FEEL SAFE/PROTECTED-  Every woman wants to feel like her man can and will kick somebody's ass for her if necessary.  She wants to feel safe around you. No matter HOW independent and strong she is, she wants to feel like her man is her own personal warrior.  That shit is sexy.  Not only does she want to feel physically safe, she also wants to feel like she can trust you to care for and protect her heart.  That is the most important thing. A lot of men do not realize how scary it can be for a woman to allow herself to place her heart in the care of of another human being.  This can only occur at the peak of vulnerability. If you are lucky enough to have a woman in your life that has opened up to you in that way, don't take it lightly.  Protect her heart with the same vigor as you would your home.  

4.  SUPPORT -  So this week she has decided to start a non profit organization. Faaaantastic:/ This morning she ran down the argument she had with her mom the night before. Again.  You think that her new goal to raise awareness about endangered birds is silly. You also think that her mother is right...this time.  Cool.  Hopefully you have a partner that values your input and welcomes your feedback.  By all means, be honest.  Now, when she decides that she is going to go ahead and follow through with whatever plans she has AND refuses to talk to her mom for a week, the only thing she really needs from you is support. You don't have to agree.  You don't have to understand.  You ARE expected to have her back the same way that you would want her to have yours.  Support her dreams with enthusiasm. Be on her side. Be PRESENT for her when she has something important going on.  Show UP.  There is nothing more endearing than a man that is there to cheer for you and who is happy to tell the world how proud he is of you.  NOTHING.

5.  ORGASMS-  Maker her CUM.  Hard.  Often.  Orgasms make women happy and much nicer human beings.  We love them just as much as men do.  I'm not just talking physical climaxes either. One important thing that many men tend to forget is that it ALL starts in a woman's mind. Fuck her mind fellas.  Fuck it like you have been waiting to fuck it your entire life.  If you can tap into her thoughts before you lay a finger on her....the rest will be cake. Compliment her sincerely.  Tell her what you want to do to her in the middle of the day.  We like sexting. Trust me.  When you see her, kiss her like you have been craving the taste of her lips since dawn.  By the time you get her naked she will be putty in your hands.  When you DO get her naked and begin to touch her...pay close attention to the response her body gives you.  Be mindful of her reactions. Does her breath quicken when you touch her in a certain spot?  If so, do that again.  Is she biting her lip?  If so,  #JACKPOT.  Most men think they are sex Gods.  Based on my independent research (refer to the years of girltalk sessions) I have determined that this is not the case.  Lol. Sorry fellas:(  Forget what she TELLS you.  Women are notorious for saying nice things about bedroom performances to protect a man's ego. Pay attention to her body.  Her body doesn't lie;)

There you go my good people.  5 basics wants.  We aren't THAT hard to figure out after all:)  

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*Photo credits*
 Model- Janel "Miss BlondeCurls" Williams
Photographer- Bernie Welch of Welch3 Photography